I feel kind of bad that my cicd workflow sees that message about "{n} packages are looking for funding, run `npm fund` for details" hundreds of times and completely ignores it.

Should I have it run npm fund occasionally just to be nice?

nah. you just switch to a tech stack where you don't need npm anymore.

no

I don't like someone selling me things. if I wanted to buy i can make my own decisions thanks

getting guilt tripped makes you a victim,
though it's also easier to scam someone than to convince them they've been scammed

apparently psychologically capitalism takes away the muddiness of the social debt system and reduces psychological stress due to this mechanic

Try npm defund (also why npm instead of pnpm or others?)