Be me

- register on tinder, mentioning I'm a developer
- start using
- first profile
- I like this first profile, I swipe right
- IT'S A MATCH
- get immediately unmatched

Be me:

- Register on tinder
- Swipe yes on basically everyone
- Swipe so many times you start seeing the same people
- Increase radius
- Still seeing seeing people multiple times
- Get a grand total of one match

Tinder bad

@Stuxnet

- and get no reply ever because it's either a bot, or some attention-seeking person*

:D

Change profession to OO Rockstar.. or similar.

@Jilano 😂I was trying not to lie to much. The OO would be lost and you have the rockstar to fall back on 🤟

@C0D4 Showing off my (poor) guitar skills, does it count? :D

@Phlisg just make it believable.

Just put "I like travelling the 🌍, take you out for 🍣 and go to the 📽️🍿", and then make a selfie with borrowed expensive sunglasses in front of a rented sports car, wearing the tightest pink vneck shirt you can still hide your dev belly in.

And then get depressed because you discover that most women on Tinder do something similar from the female side, once you're done digging through thick layers of makeup and lies there's only uninteresting filthy spoiled drama queens and severely irreparable broken souls on dating sites.

I still think the real world is the best dating site for finding interesting people... But it's one which requires constant action, social bravery, practice, and repeatedly getting through awkward and shameful moments.

You have no idea how many "matches" you get if you mention that you have won the lottery. Twice. 😉

@bittersweet Ah, I can't agree more on "real world is the real dating platform", but after trying that route, and being a passive guy (I'm a follower rather than an initiator), well, I don't end up meeting lots of new chicks, maybe 5-6 a year (!). I'm much more comfortable in this area too, I find myself boring online haha

Hence why I thought I would go on Tinder, just to meet. Second difficulty on this platform, is how to talk about something that isn't boring, when the girl has left no details and her photos are bland

Complicated world.

@Phlisg It certainly is way too complicated.

The difficult part is that no matter which route you take, it takes a lot of creativity, time and energy to date. From both sides, there's just such a requirement for unnecessary rituals and hoops to jump through.

It would be nice if there was an AI which would just say: "Here, I found you a partner, I've calculated that you would improve each other's lives, by 24.23% for the man, 31.54% for the woman. She will likes the silly gifts and footrubs you provide her with, and even though you hate her taste in music it will pay off because you have a 84% overlap in liked Netflix series. I will monitor your relationship, and if any boredom or resentment starts forming within 3 months I have another candidate for you"

Wasn't there a black mirror episode about this?

@M1sf3t Haha I've seen those exceptionnal captures from Tinder where girls would be quite naughty (imagine the british accent with me saying that)

Most couples around me, in Switzerland, were formed through Tinder... Way to go I guess :/

@bittersweet Exactly, it's like taking a simple recipe, ie pancakes, and making sure to make it as impossible as ever. You have to rework the way you behave, the way you stand, breathe, look, smile, comb your hair, smell, clothes, attitude, ALL that while being super confident, having an incredible life everybody dreams about

Come on. We're humans, not super-heroes stupid social networks try to push us to. Tinder doesn't help with that, so the only way is to try and manage in a similar way haha

@bittersweet truer words were never spoken (also a pun with your name)

@M1sf3t But that AI would match you with a girl who matches you, not exactly the thing I described above.

@Phlisg I think it's about realistic experiences. There's this false advertisement effect which leaves a sour taste. So the options are being honest about flaws upfront, which nets you zero relationships, or the truths will seep into the light soon after you start dating, leading to short flings.

Durable stable relationships are difficult.

I kind of think if all dating profiles would be super honest, it would help.

@bittersweet yeah but try writing one of those super honest dating profiles.

Step 1: Get some friends
Step 2: Keep those friends long enough for them to get to know the real you
Step 3: if you can’t marry one of those friends, get them to write a dating profile for you.
Step 4: Repeat

Or do as I did and just marry your best friend.

Be me

- don't use Tinder
- use.. uhmmm.... nevermind
Don't be me.

@jeremyIglehart

Yeah honest dating profiles would only work if ALL profiles were honest.

And ++ for "I wanna ruin our friendship, lets be lovers instead". That song always gets in my head because it's a good idea.

@NoMad I see both gals and guys suffer from the same problems, especially on that particular platform. Slight exception: guys are "SWIPE EVERYTHING RIGHT" and girls are "SWIPE EVERYTHING LEFT", according to what I've seen around with my friends. So, with that in mind, when a girl swipes right, she knows she's going to match. A guy? no friggin' clue. And then a match happens, the girl doesn't even dare answer. I mean wtf, don't swipe right or at least have the politeness of saying "sorry, no can't do", no messages is just frustrating. I guess it's the same for you when guys don't answer.

Funnily though, is how guys react to you when you say you want to know them more. Personaly I would be delighted, I'm surprised it's not the case for most other guys?

Joining you on staying single forever, but with the "purity" of the singleness haha :D

@M1sf3t Jesus Christ son.

You must live in a bfe town too, huh?

(The 100 mile radius part)

@M1sf3t I was so glad to move to a city with like 5x the population of my county and 50x the population of my town for uni.

But yeah I was just complaining about dating back home with someone bc if everyone basically knowing everyone. It's a pain in the ass, really.

@NoMad It's what I've seen being done around me :D

I'm suspecting a large presence of bots on the app too, just there to pollute everything...

Groucho Marx wouldn't swipe right on anyone who swipes right on him.