My wife and all of our friends are Brazilian. When they are all talking in a group in Portuguese, my mind wonders off and wishing I was back doing my coding.

Like, if you want to include me, talk my language! English, PHP, JavaScript... All acceptable.

I completely understand. My partner is German and I'm Irish. I have a good level of German myself although, I still struggle to keep up when we are together with her friends. I prefer to speak German as default and not force others to speak English. Thank goodness I have Irish bars in my city where I can find my kin. Make the effort to learn your partner's language and reap the rewards.

I actually do, @irene. Just no where near to be able to join in the conversation. I pick up words here and there and sometimes understand the general context, quite hard but I do make an effort.

I generally feel left out though as they are all 100% fluent in English...